Going around the world
wife wants me to move to england, I don't
want to and had stipulated that quite clearly,
prior to her flying out here to W.Australia.
She had almost completed perm. residency
here when she flew home.
here, she repeatedly told me that she was
keen to stay and make a go of it. Now she
says that she doesn't want to live here,
because she wants to be closer to her family.
But still swears that ''she loves me with
all her heart'' and wants to save our marriage
''whatever it takes", with a little
sacrifice from both of us.
I feel it is a waste of time, because I've
been to England and hated it, and don't
want to start all over again with new doctors.
I am on a weekly dose of chemo, for the
rest of my life. And, as is obvious, my
wife doesn't want to live here! Also, she
has a real problem with being open and
honest with me. She's not a talker. What
should I do?, or, What should she do?
No easy answer. You
both want to compromise, but, other than
living in Sri Lanka, that will not help.
Knowing your health problems, and that
you hate England, she's been quite brave
to assert her views - which probably surprised
her as much as you when she realised how
strongly she felt.
I can see your frustration
- but your 'stipulation' was without value;
how could she know in advance. If one of
you is holding out "on principle", then
a bit of common sense, and you'll be right
- if you both genuinely feel that strongly
- I'm sorry.