No Time Like A Present
I received an invitation to my uncle's
80th birthday party. It said "no presents
buy your presence". I found out that someone
is bringing a bottle of wine for him and
my mom is giving money and my sister is
going to give a gift. What is proper to
do in this case. I thought when the invitation
says no gifts, it meant NO gifts. I am
stumped and think that their gift giving
is putting others on the spot. Advise me
please on what to do.
Isn't awful when a happy event becomes
a family competition? First, try to be
sure if Uncle meant it. And hold that thought.
Second, the perfect gift if he meant it,
would be something small, of little cash
value, but absolutely perfect for him (A
die-cast model of his first car? A new
pipe stand?). Make him smile, and
ignore the others - a present is between
you and him.
If maybe he didn't mean it, but said it
to make it easy for the poorest member
of the family, honour intention by getting
a joint present with that person, and make
sure you make it good, while avoiding all
All other cases - try to work out the 'average'
value being bought and go for that. Don't
Ruin His Birthday.
Tried and Tested Advice