Fun or Funeral?
My grandmother just passed away and her
funeral is coming up. I plan to attend.
My husband and I have had a prior commitment
to the same weekend for several months
now and are not sure if it is appropriate
for him to miss the funeral to attend this
commitment or if he should let them know
what's happened and attend the funeral
The other committment is a weekend baby
shower for his brother. We thought each
one of us could represent us at each place.
Technically, I'm sure you are right. But
this isn't about etiquette, it's about
people's feelings. How close were you to
your Grandmother? Is your Grandfather alive,
and will he be hurt if you don't both go?
How will your parents feel? Did your husband
know your Grandmother? How well?
You see, at one extreme, they hardly met
and no-one would expect him to be there
- at the other, he went fishing with your
Grandfather and lunched with them every
Sunday; making you both a pair of heartless
Only you know.
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