I want my best friend's Ex
About a month or so ago my friend and
her boyfriend broke up. He and I have always
been really good friends and we talked
on the phone about her one night and we
both started thinking " what about us".
She always treated him wrong and never
acted like she cared about him and after
they broke up she never said she still
cared about him, and when she found out
he cared about me and I felt the same way
about him, she started saying she still
cares about him. it sorta seems like she's
just trying to keep him on a leash but
I don't know... just the other day me and
him went out on a date, I asked her if
it was ok and she said it bothers me but
I can't stop you.
Now I have really strong feelings for
him and I don't know what to do. One way
I see it is that if she was my real friend
she would be happy that I found someone
who made me happy and she would put away
how she felt for me.
But the other way I see it is what kind
of friend would I be if I dated this guy
when she "says" she still has feelings
for him ... these are two of my favorite
people on earth. I could just tell him
we just need to be friends but thats not
gonna make me happy because I have these
feelings for him.
I don't know what to do!
to know that there are people who value
friendship - but I think you might be being
too reasonable. You tell me they broke
up; that means he's free to see who he
is only human, of course she won't like
it, but she understands. And there's no
way she can (consciously or unconsciously)
control the lives of two other people,
and if she cares for you, that reality
will work through.
But, of course,
life is never that simple. What you do
with the 'Ex' is between you and him. Unless
you choose to make it your friend's business.
always treated him wrong" you say.
Really? Are you sure? Is it your business?
she still has feelings, you say. Do you
doubt her? Is it your business?
with a friend's Ex can last 6 weeks and
end a lifetime's friendship.
Or lead to
a three-way friendship for life. Your choice.
up the relationships, don't blame, and
don't choose to be in the middle.