Is there a cure for Jealousy?

Ursula asks:

Is jealousy always a sign of some other problem in a relationship? And, if so, is there any way that an issue like this can be resolved.

How about someone who is so insecure that he worries about everyone that you meet and talk to during the day when he isn't around?

Is there any hope for this person to change?

Dear Ursula,

Not easy. There's two sorts of jealousy; appropriate jealousy, and the inappropriate kind. If it's appropriate, dealing with the source can enable the healing process to begin - but jealousy is a breakdown in trust; rebuilding that can be a long, slow process, it may even be impossible.

If the jealousy is inappropriate, the key question to ask yourself is, has it always been this way, or has something changed. What? Some people are more prone to jealousy than others, and the only way to manage it, is total honesty.

Most jealous people want to trust, and you need to help them do so.

Tip: Never, ever, hide something "because I knew you'd be upset" - being upset is infinitely preferable to being deceived, and that kind of deceit can - and will - destroy a relationship.

So the person can change, but only with your total honesty and commitment.

Good Luck!