I need to move on ...
I'm 44, seperated for two years,
with two girls (13 and 14). I have
been going out with my new partner
for 19 months and we are totally in
love and best mates. He lives in Sydney
I'm in Melbourne. I would love to
be with him, as I love him and Sydney.
My girls love their dad and he is
an excellent father. He has promised
to take me through every court in
the land so as I won't take the girls
with me, they want to stay with me.
I believe I can win but agonise over
the moral issue of taking the girls
away from their dad and friends and
family, school etc.
Also financially I would be struggling
financially but would be okay. I have
held on for several years always considering
whats best for others and now believe
it's my turn for a little happiness.
I don't want to lose this wonderful
man! Do I go for it or consider others
don't even mention him coming to Melbourne.
Or waiting until the girls finish
school. I can sympathise with your
desperation not to lose this man,
especially as he seems unlikely to
make any effort himself, or wait two
years for you.
you really prepared to ruin the girls
education? Take your happiness, if
you must, but consider leaving
the girls where they are, or with
their Dad. Promise them they can join
you when they've taken all their exams.
Of course they want to be with you
- but they probably haven't thought
through the consequences. You must.